Marriage

I am basically a shy person. I feel kind of diffident when moving with a person of the opposite sex. Having this kind of backdrop, the search for an ideal person to share your life becomes kind of difficult.

However, here in India, we have the system of arranged marriage.

Now there are a large number of people who believe that it is better in a love marriage. However, I would not like to get into the argument of love marriage vs arranged marriage. I do not have the capability or inclination to go looking for an ideal soul mate. I have chosen the arranged marriage route.

The search has been going for the last few years, and having met a few eligible candidates, I am, however, disappointed. There are no problems with the ladies, it is just that the minds do not match. You would argue, what the hell, you meet the lady for a few minutes, how can you decide if the person is a suitable match for you.

I beg to differ. Usually the first reactions to a person tend to guide the relation that you have with the person. How many times have we formed openions of persons on our first meetings. Some of these judgements have been wrong, I agree, but almost all of the times, atleast for me, I have had success.

Being an emotional person, and being a little intutive (i think), I form my openion on the first meeting. This is generally bang on target. Seldom has this first impression gone wrong.

So comming back to the ladies, there have been occations when there would be positive signs from my side, however, the lady begs to differ. Joss!

It is really a strage experience. You walk directly to a stranger's house, chit chat for a few minutes, and make a decision based on these few interations. It has worked out for thousands of years.

Well this happened to me on Friday last.

Met a lady at her house, spoke for some time, not interesting, rejected.

The above line sums up the whole thing neatly nah ?